Hug or Opinion?
My wife and I have this thing.
Whenever we have a discussion where one of the parties is clearly emotional about something, the other person will ask: "Do you want a hug or an opinion?"
When they ask for a hug, you listen and offer support for whatever it is they're feeling at the moment.
When they asל for an opinion, you give your honest take on what's going on and what you think they should do about it.
This allows your to have your partner's back, regardless of the circumstances.
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In my view, when you're in a relationship with someone, you make a commitment to be their 3am friend.
You're there, rain or shine, backing them up in whatever they choose to do.
If you chose your partner well, you will never face a situation where they are debating something so morally disastrous that it will be impossible for you to agree with.
Therefore, you should always first offer to be there for them, and only then express your opinion.
You'll both be better off.
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